Do Hard Things
July 31st, 2008
(By Jesse Johnson)
Today, a teenager is considered a “good kid” if he gets good grades, gets into a good college, and stays out of trouble. In a culture where the perceived norm for high school students is drugs and detentions, making the honor roll is an accomplishment worthy of a bumper sticker. But the sad reality is that at many schools even the honors classes are so dumbed down that merely showing up and turning in all the work gets you an A. So if a student gets straight A’s, plays a sport and joins a club he is considered top-notch. And if he regularly attends church, well . . . that is even better.
Alex and Brett Harris (yes, the younger brothers of Joshua Harris, and yes, the Joshua Harris) have noticed this trend. They have noticed that teenagers are consumed by low expectations, and by and large have bought the myth that reaching a bar knee-high is something to be proud of.
The Harris brothers point out that this expectation of worthlessness has produced years of wasted potential. In their book, Do Hard Things, they expose this culture of mediocrity as the teenager’s enemy. They make it clear that the victims in this are teens who squander their first opportunities in life to excel — to do things that count for eternity.
Where did this culture come from? They blame “the myth of adolescence” (a term Al Mohler and Rick Holland have been using for years). They assault the idea that there should a be a time period between being a kid and being an adult, and that in that fictional time period it is acceptable to squander your years staying out of trouble, instead of seizing them to serve God.
The first way the myth gets teens to waste their life is by convincing them that being above average is actually something to be proud of. Excellence is defined by getting good grades in easy classes, and if the classes are to hard, at least trying to get good grades should be sufficient. The second way, the Harris brothers say, is by getting teens to be known for what they don’t do, rather than what they do. “Tim doesn’t do drugs or get in trouble at school — what a good boy he is!”
This book is refreshing because it is unlike most other books written for teens; it challenges them with real challenges. It challenges both the myth and the culture of mediocrity the myth creates. And it encourages teens to try things at which they might very well fail. In this vein it reminds me of John Piper’s Don’t Waste Your Life.
The Harris brothers are 19, and they write for a teenage audience. I heard someone say that this book would be suitable for adults to read, but I’m not sure how the Harris brothers would take that. After all, the point of the book is that teenagers need to grow up and act like adults. If culture has set the bar too low for adults too, well that almost misses the point of what the Harris brothers are trying to say. They are not calling teens to rise to the level of the average adult — they are calling teens to excellence.
The most helpful part of the book for me was a section highlighting examples of hard things to do. There are five categories of hard things given, and while I won’t give you the list here, I will tell you that they range from making your bed and working out consistently to ending childhood poverty in Africa. The most common example the book gives, and some might find this the book’s most obvious weakness, is political activism. The Harris brothers themselves worked on a campaign for a state supreme court candidate, and the longest example in the book is about a girl who ran a county-wide election in Colorado.
The appendix of the book is an explanation of how the Gospel fits into this call to do hard things, and it is very evangelistic. I would have liked to see the Gospel at the front end, and I would have liked to see them show in each section how the call to follow Christ fits in with the overall message to teens. But this is a minor concern, and the book is replete with Scripture passages and allusions, so it is not as if they were trying to obscure the Christian message. I just wish it would have been more integrated to the theme.
I would recommend this book be given high school students, and the younger the better. It could be a good graduation gift, but at that point the thrust of the book would already be in a person’s rear-view mirror. It is more suited for freshman. Those who read it will be challenged to escape the trappings of modern-American adolescent mediocrity.
Finally, the Harris brothers have a website, http://www.therebelution.com/, which is an excellent source of information and forums for Christian teens. It is worth exploring, and youth pastors especially will mind much that is helpful there.
The same culture that has set the bar too low for our youth is the same culture in which the church has set the bar too low for itself.
All,
This is an excellent book and I just took my student youth group to see the Harris brothers speak. They were excellent and very encouraging! I cannot strongly recommend thsi book enough. If you would like to see these young mean teach the content of the book you can buy a DVD of the Rebelution event from their website. (And no, I get no ‘kickbacks’ for thsi recommendation)
Hayden
I finished reading this book tonight. My primary motive for reading it was because I work with the high-schoolers at my church. I have not been a teen for some years now, but I was really attracted to the theme behind this book. I agree with the brothers’ observations–that teens generally live up to their low expectations, but we must also admit that they did not get there themselves. The first comment on this post has much truth to it–that the church even places pretty low expectations on teens. Like the post author, I would have liked to see the gospel message a centrality to their motives for fighting these low expectations. They could have even drawn upon biblical characters more than they did. Alas, it was a great effort and their reward will be waiting them in heaven!
I gave this book to one student as part of a graduation present, and he loved it. He plans on passing it on to his younger brother to so he will not waste his high school years. Cool results, planning on using it later with the rest of the youth ministry!
My brother sent me a letter (by snail mail) with the link to this article. We read the book right before I went back to Patrick Henry College for the fall semester. The book addresses the problem of low expectations for teens, but it seems that–as has already been mentioned–the standard is set too low in nearly all levels in society. Especially for those who claim to be Chrisitans, the Bible sets high standards. When we only live up to low expectations, we are not honoring God with all of our being.
Nice review by the way.