1. When you are in the moment; when the good or right thing is obvious but you just don’t want to do it, what ‘makes’ a person choose one action over another.
How do you convince yourself to just do or (in most of my situations), NOT do something. Example, I know I have to clear the kitchen table and wash the dishes. I KNOW it needs to be done and I’m the one to do it. But I refuse, I procrastinate and I just don’t do it. The consequences seem to have no impact. The lazy flesh wins everytime.

2. WHERE does self-discipline come from? As a fruit of the Spirit, where do I pick it? It has to come from something bigger than me, because SELF-discipline as I see it now, is relying on myself to stop or start myself. I can’t do it. I’m tired of the struggle so I avoid the situations (ie my dishes are at ceiling height) and the guilt that comes with failing to ‘follow the list of help”

Maybe you already covered this part and I missed it. I would really appreciate an honest evaluation.

I have to believe that self-discipline is won in small moments. I believe it is a fruit of the Spirit. But when it comes down to very practical daily decisions, I just do not pick the right choice or even the same choice on a daily basis.

Good advice Dr. MacArthur!